More and more I open up Instagram and see women apologizing on thier feed. Apologizing for not posting, apologizing for lack of makeup. Honestly, It upsets me and here's why.
One thing I learned early on was to stop apologizing for things you didn't do wrong. Sure, if you are flail-talking with your hands and whack a passerby in the face, please do apologize. I'm talking about not posting on social media.
You see it a lot; "sorry for lack of updates..." or "sorry I haven't posted much..." on content creator profiles. We often feel obligated to keep up appearances, but our profile is ours alone. How often, or when we post is our choice. If I take a week off, I shouldn't need to explain myself or apologize, so I never will. I will say thank you if I get concerned messages, but it's really unnecessary.
Think about the current algorithms on most social sites. Your content is getting seen by less than 10 percent of your audience already. Apologizing is just making them aware that you've been gone. You are setting standards for them by letting them expect consistency! Always place a positive spin on the way you perceive your own content. Positivity is always well received, and it feels better too.
It hurts my feelings the most when I see women apologize for their lack of makeup, for posting a bare faced photo. STOP IT!! Do not EVER apologize for your natural beauty. Never apologize for letting your guard down and relaxing. You're an absolute babe! Trust me!
Don't accept the standards the media has set for women. If you have a full glam look on, rock it. If you have a messy bun and no makeup, rock it!! Why do women feel the need to apologize? You're so dang pretty! Be strong and confident and own every decision you make.
The next time you feel the need to apologize for something you created, or your natural self, think twice - what did you do wrong? Instead of apologizing for your social absence, bless us with your re-emergence. Instead of apologizing for your naked face, wear it with pride.
HOMEWORK: Take some time and think about some of the ridiculous things you've apologized for in the past. I understand it's a natural reflex for most, but look at how you think, and see how you can change it to be a confidence boost.
While this article is heavily aimed at women, I'm sure any male readers can take something from this article as well. To everyone, it's super important to always be building each other up, and sharing in accomplishments. Abandon jealousy and shame. Especially while the world becomes more competitive, tell someone they look great, or their latest costume turned out amazing, or that they're doing really well on a work in progress.
Stop apologizing, and start appreciating yourself, and those around you.